Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval and to fit in

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-nYiDxLpdJvE/WJcHg3x8_NI/AAAAAAAAaP0/SQsRD2LDXXcUir--Ky0q6cUKkClxQ-vNwCPcB/s1600/10simple%2Bstages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-nYiDxLpdJvE/WJcHg3x8_NI/AAAAAAAAaP0/SQsRD2LDXXcUir--Ky0q6cUKkClxQ-vNwCPcB/s320/10simple%2Bstages.jpg" width="214" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval and to fit in. This happens first a child - when we adapt to meet our parents needs so that we can get approval.<br /><br />Then, as we get older, it could be a group of friends, or adapt to how we think our romantic partner thinks we should be - or the opposite - we rebel against how anyone thinks we should be and we stand out by not fitting in.<br /><br />No matter how we slice it, adapting ourselves to fitting in or being a rebel and standing out – all of these behaviours stem from our thoughts about what other people think. And living our lives from the perspective of what other people think creates massive pain in our lives. Because when we act based on what other people think, we are acting from the place of a deficit, that is - "I'm not enough, so I am going to change myself to be enough."<br /><br />And this core thought has caused A LOT of pain in our lives.<br /><br />And this core thought has caused a lot of our pain in general.<br /><br />The journey is that through feeling all of this pain, we come back to ourselves. And we stop identifying with what other people think we should be, or we stop rebelling against other people - and instead tune within and listen to whom we really are - at a heart and recovery level.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Each and every one of us - and that includes - YOU - is a unique child. We have a unique gift. We are great at something. And life comes into balance and our fullest expression begins to be realised when we align with our true nature that of the child within rather than being a part of the herd or rebelling against the herd.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />The journey is within. When we listen to and act from that place - we are trendsetters - we are unique - we are special - and ain't no one else like us is made.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">And what's cool is when we start to belong to ourselves and express our child within - we put out a different frequency and, as a result, we start attracting and meeting others who are on that new wave length. And what's so cool is in doing so, we no longer need to chase people. When we belong to ourselves, we find who else we belong to.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />The joy of living a Self-Approved life is revealed when we begin to allow ourselves to be ourselves - we accept ourselves as we are - we accept ourselves as perfectly imperfect and the inner conflict begins to die down. And our true nature emerges and The Ten Stages supports us in miraculous ways.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">How can you start to live a Self- Approved life today?</span><br /> <div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div> <div class="zemanta-related" style="background-color: white; clear: both; color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> </div>

Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval and to fit in

Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval and to fit in. This happens first a child - when we adapt to meet our parents needs so that we can get approval.Then, as we…

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We who have a dissociative addiction disorder may experience too much and intrusions occur.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX_akC3fMP2gMQq1SH8xWOXkbYBt1nk8D6EvSAJuD4Dz8e6RccsvgxsXGwvRfOvt7HIfAnDXZrnglWVvLiUJnsBL4ZX3J2Abamwpen0AN75uMXoHzBh6Q-F2KSK5r9YFWWgnUl_rsQbJw7/s1600/DAD+back+to+beginnings.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="106" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX_akC3fMP2gMQq1SH8xWOXkbYBt1nk8D6EvSAJuD4Dz8e6RccsvgxsXGwvRfOvt7HIfAnDXZrnglWVvLiUJnsBL4ZX3J2Abamwpen0AN75uMXoHzBh6Q-F2KSK5r9YFWWgnUl_rsQbJw7/s320/DAD+back+to+beginnings.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We who have a dissociative addiction disorder may experience too much and intrusions</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> occur. Intrusions happen when one dissociative part intrudes into the experience of another and this may take place in any area of experience, such as memories, thoughts, feelings and sharing with others. Dissociative intrusions include flashbacks, sudden feelings thoughts and behaviours, sensations or pain that have no medical cause and ultimately relapse to a drug of choice. These intrusions happen when a dissociative part of us suddenly enters conscious awareness. It is often hard, at the beginning of the ten stages to know if a symptom is related to dissociation or not.</span>

We who have a dissociative addiction disorder may experience too much and intrusions occur.

We who have a dissociative addiction disorder may experience too much and intrusions occur. Intrusions happen when one dissociative part intrudes into the experience of another and this may take plac…

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Dissociated chronic Addiction disorder When we have been trapped by addictions in situations over which we had little or no control

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_fGkoRdz4SqpZSdxSEwX7vvfJNTX4c6rw_L_HbQwf_mhLRyjotXDqbEA7JBZTTUMF8-oyu-SQDV2O9gplKxEihLtphNvgRYLf_859ivYlRrIiM8WYS4fNGfNX-Vmr4LnsuWVpKveJ3co/s1600/med234+Collage.jpg.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="164" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_fGkoRdz4SqpZSdxSEwX7vvfJNTX4c6rw_L_HbQwf_mhLRyjotXDqbEA7JBZTTUMF8-oyu-SQDV2O9gplKxEihLtphNvgRYLf_859ivYlRrIiM8WYS4fNGfNX-Vmr4LnsuWVpKveJ3co/s320/med234+Collage.jpg.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Dissociated chronic Addiction disorder <d .a.d=""> When we have been trapped by addictions in situations over which we had little or no control at the beginning, middle or end, we carry an intense sense of dread even after that situation is removed. This is because we know how bad things can possibly be. And we know that it could possibly happen again. And we know that if it ever does happen again, it might be worse than before.<br /><br />The degree of D.A.D addiction trauma cannot be defined purely in terms of the trauma that a person has experienced. It is important to understand that each person is different and has a different tolerance level to addiction trauma. Therefore, what one person may be able to shake off, another person may not. Therefore more or less exposure to trauma does not necessarily make the D.A.D any more or less severe.<br /><br />D.A.D sufferers may "stuff" or suppress their emotional reaction to addictional traumatic events without resolution either because they believe each event by itself doesn't seem like such a big deal or because they see no satisfactory resolution opportunity available to them. This suppression of "emotional addictional baggage" can continue for a long time either until a "last straw" event occurs, or a safer emotional environment emerges and the damn begins to break.<br /><br />The D.A.D describes how one layer after another of addictional trauma can interact with one another. Sometimes, it is mistakenly assumed that the most recent traumatic D.A.D event in a person's life is the one that brought them to their knees. However, just addressing that single most-recent event may possibly be an invalidating experience for the D.A.D sufferer. Therefore, it is important to recognise that those who suffer from D.A,D may be experiencing feelings from all their traumatic exposure, even as they try to address the most recent traumatic event.<br /><br />This is what differentiates D.A.D from the classic D.I.D diagnosis - which typically describes an emotional response to a single or to a discrete number of traumatic events.</d></span>

Dissociated chronic Addiction disorder When we have been trapped by addictions in situations over which we had little or no control

Dissociated chronic Addiction disorder When we have been trapped by addictions in situations over which we had little or no control at the beginning, middle or end, we carry an intense sense of drea…

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