Hidden Agendas it can be a very intense process to break through all the hidden agendas that hold us back from creating our own recovery life.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxJqNsyAgIcxl47zSDVPtr6piNHW6E_G2dlsWQmtsQHTm2Jve33OCNe7MU8pITnyKRCLxP-axMjfR1Udu71kUo8ZpDX23k3IRo3fsAzb3veEBMRZg142iNXjWsdKBEd-yYu-TXszZv8bNC/s1600/lovingkindfulness.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxJqNsyAgIcxl47zSDVPtr6piNHW6E_G2dlsWQmtsQHTm2Jve33OCNe7MU8pITnyKRCLxP-axMjfR1Udu71kUo8ZpDX23k3IRo3fsAzb3veEBMRZg142iNXjWsdKBEd-yYu-TXszZv8bNC/s320/lovingkindfulness.jpg" width="214" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The thing that we've come to see over and over again when we come to a new recovery with us is that we already know what they want. We already know what our recovery dreams are. We already know what we have to do, and yet we don't.<br /><br />And it can be a very intense process to break through all the hidden agendas that hold us back from creating our own recovery </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">life.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><i><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">Here are some:<br /><br />I'm too old.<br /><br />I'm too young.<br /><br />I'm not smart enough.<br /><br />I don't have enough education.<br /><br />I have too much experience.<br /><br />I'm over my childhood.<br /><br />I'm not damaged by my experiences.<br /><br />I don't have enough time.</span></i></span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i><br /></i></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">I can't meditate.<br /><br />There are millions more, but those are some of the most common ones that we see.</span></i><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">And what's fascinating is that these beliefs can overtake us. It's always a miracle when we begin to understand that they are not our beliefs, but our personal beliefs are patterns from our ancestral childhood.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">So it's not so much about learning to change who you are as it is learning to change certain patterns set in childhood within us.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">We've always believed that when we have a limiting belief, it's true in the moment, but not ultimately true.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">So wherever our limiting beliefs are, that circumstance might be true in the moment, but there is always another way of looking at problems and circumstances where you can call forth more resourcefulness and creativity than you thought you had.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">And remember, while circumstances might not be ideal, who you are is FAR greater than that. Circumstances never ultimately dictate how far in life we go, but rather how we respond to our circumstances.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">We are always responsible for how we respond to life. So the question is, if you are experiencing limits in your life, how are you responding? Are you responding with more limitation, or can you broaden your horizons and see that in this moment there is a greater opportunity for more creativity and resourcefulness than you thought you had?</span></span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> </h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> </ul> </div> </div>

Hidden Agendas it can be a very intense process to break through all the hidden agendas that hold us back from creating our own recovery life.

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Our child within’s self-esteem reflects how we feel about ourself and contributes to how we approach our world.

<div> <span style="clear: right; float: right; font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;">Our child within’s self-esteem reflects how we feel about ourself and contributes to how we approach our world. Although our level of self-esteem can vary slightly from day to day, we have a general feeling about our value and self-worth. Low self-esteem is reflected in our behaviour, body language, approach to life and overall demeanour.Avoidance Behaviours<img height="213" src="http://img.aws.livestrongcdn.com/ls-article-image-400/cme/cme_public_images/www_livestrong_com/photos.demandstudios.com/getty/article/165/59/86810573_XS.jpg" width="320" />Our child within has low-self esteem, we likely don’t feel comfortable around new people or situations.<br /><br /> If this is the case, we will feel awkward and tend to avoid anything unfamiliar. Often, we will be hesitant to take risks or move out of our comfort zone. With this behaviour, our child within will miss valuable social opportunities and situations where we can learn and grow from a new experience.Low Confidence Level<img height="213" src="http://img.aws.livestrongcdn.com/ls-article-image-400/cme/cme_public_images/www_livestrong_com/photos.demandstudios.com/getty/article/146/158/200415433-001_XS.jpg" width="320" />We will be overly critical of the skills we posses or how we looks.<br />A lack of confidence often goes hand in hand with low self-esteem. We notice our child talking negatively about ourself and our abilities. We will be overly critical of the skills we posses or how we look. We use pessimistic phrasing about the world in general.Our body language, such as slumped shoulders, sad facial expression and downcast eyes, will show a low level of confidence without us even saying a word.</span></div> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/05/children-who-were-abused-grow-into.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/noimg_44_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/05/children-who-were-abused-grow-into.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Children who were abused grow into teens and adults that feel flawed, inferior, worthless, hopeless, inadequate, dirty, overwhelmed with deep shame, depressed, anxious, extreme loneliness, helpless and afraid. They have low self-esteem and self-worth, agg</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://recoverystages.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-stages-study-course-means-us-having.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/348786793_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://recoverystages.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-stages-study-course-means-us-having.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">The Stages Study Course means us having the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/04/we-do-not-erode-our-self-esteem-over.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/335589169_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/04/we-do-not-erode-our-self-esteem-over.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We do not erode our self-esteem over big issues but over small ones</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/05/intuition-is-not-result-of-diet-rituals.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/noimg_12_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/05/intuition-is-not-result-of-diet-rituals.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Intuition is not the result of diet, rituals, or wind chimes. It's the natural consequence of having self-esteem, the greatest power you can have.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-child-within-having-been.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/344103160_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-child-within-having-been.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">The Child Within having been traumatised develop a variety of self-defeating beliefs about themselves and the world.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/11/our-child-withins-maturity-is-capacity.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/noimg_45_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/11/our-child-withins-maturity-is-capacity.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Our Child Withins maturity is the capacity to stand our ground as a reflection of our genuine inner belief.</a></li> </ul> </div>

Our child within’s self-esteem reflects how we feel about ourself and contributes to how we approach our world.

Our child within’s self-esteem reflects how we feel about ourself and contributes to how we approach our world. Although our level of self-...

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Addicts are scorned by communities and celebrities with addictions are exploited or hounded by paparazzi.

<div class="zemanta-img" style="text-align: left;"> </div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjlnXibEkvUlWbCLdrz_CkOS6i_i_FJuT-wAlDTidGErpiIN7r3XolcRKe6aGsYTUlKWxZGdjNEPS39V-l0wobgcrMemv238zSudkV8ZCzOY5c3aRENJ0onpr0ZqAay5sIH3kyp0picrpB/s1600/Healthy+Recovery.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjlnXibEkvUlWbCLdrz_CkOS6i_i_FJuT-wAlDTidGErpiIN7r3XolcRKe6aGsYTUlKWxZGdjNEPS39V-l0wobgcrMemv238zSudkV8ZCzOY5c3aRENJ0onpr0ZqAay5sIH3kyp0picrpB/s320/Healthy+Recovery.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Addicts are scorned by communities and celebrities with addictions are exploited or hounded by paparazzi. And while the government purports to view addiction as a disease, it often works in opposition to that position through the “War on Drugs,” which counts most drug users as criminals. Even those of us in the treatment community still—consciously or unconsciously—employ stigmatizing programming and language—such as when we focus on “dirty” urine.<br />So despite widespread agreement that addiction is best understood as a complicated behavioral-biological scenario that requires treatment, the system is hard-wired to prolong stigmatization, and stigma contributes to addiction's lethality.</span></blockquote> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/05/drugs-arent-driver-of-addiction-in-fact.html" style="border-radius: 2px; 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text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Recovering into Reality:A new treatment paradigm for recovery we acknowledge that Addicts/alcoholics are not born so: we are created.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/05/its-no-secret-that-one-of-most-common.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/344103162_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/05/its-no-secret-that-one-of-most-common.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">It's no secret that one of the most common effects of child abuse are that most abused children grow up to be alcoholics or addicts</a></li> </ul> </div>

Addicts are scorned by communities and celebrities with addictions are exploited or hounded by paparazzi.

Addicts are scorned by communities and celebrities with addictions are exploited or hounded by paparazzi. And while the government purp...

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